Flesh of my flesh

"So husbands should love their wives as their own bodies." Ephesians 5:28

This is echoing the words of the first lover, Adam, upon seeing his bride Eve: "This as last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh" (Gen 2:23)!  The love of one who has not been separated from his God by sin.  The love of one who is fully integrated, body and soul.

God is never selfish

God is Love.  This means that He is never selfish-- it would be a contradiction of His very essence.  Whatever you are going through, it is for you, not Him.